- Listen to the others, do not interrupt or start additional discussions.
“Everyone must have the opportunity to explain their views in peace. It is important that we do not interrupt each other or whisper with the person next to us.” - Relate what you say to what the others have said and use everyday language. “The objective of the dialogue is to relate what we say to what the others have brought up in the discussion. Let’s try to use everyday language and avoid specialist terms.”
- Tell about your own experience.
“To be able to better understand the issue discussed and each other, it is a good idea to tell about our own experiences. This means that we tell the others what issues, events and situations have affected our views.” - Be present and respect the others and the confidentiality of the discussion
“In a dialogue, it is important to concentrate entirely on each other and on understanding the issue we are discussing. We will respect the different views people have. Let’s keep the conversation confidential so that everyone can talk as freely as possible.” - Find and bring together. Boldly deal with emerging conflicts and find issues that have gone unnoticed. Talk to the others directly and ask about their views.
“The dialogue is intended to be a safe situation, in which also conflicts can be processed. In addition, it is important to look for things that have gone unnoticed for one reason or another. In the end, we can examine the links between the points of view that have come up in this discussion.”
Ground rules for a constructive discussion
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